Have you noticed this too? The “same day” is approaching, and instead of anticipating gifts and cake, you want to emigrate to the forest without communication. If before we counted the days until the holiday, now we hope that Facebook will not “accidentally” send a notification to friends, informs Ukr.Media.
It's not you who broke down. It's a global trend for “quiet birthdays.” And, frankly, it's long overdue.
Diagnosis: Birthday Blues
Psychologists have already invented terms like birthday blues, birthday depression, date anxiety. The point is the same: instead of joy, sadness and irritation take over.
Why? Because reality rarely matches expectations. In your head, you have a Great Gatsby-style party where you are the king of life. In reality, you are just a year older, your utility bills are the same, and organizing a party for a crowd is just another shift at work that you don't get paid for.
At 10 you were expecting clowns. At 20 you were expecting a case of alcohol. At 30+ you dream of a normal steak and no one touching you.
Millennials: the generation of burnout and phonephobia
If you're a millennial, your birthday is a hell of incoming calls.
Seriously, who are these people who call with their voices during working hours to wish “happiness and health”? Millennials hate talking on the phone. Every call from a distant relative is a micro-stress. Many simply turn off their smartphones, and I understand them.
Add to this the pressure of “successful success.” Social media screams that by the time you’re thirty you should have launched a startup, bought an apartment in the city center, and spent the winter in Bali. And you’re sitting in a rented two-room apartment wondering if you’ll have enough for a decent whiskey. This contrast is annoying. No achievements, no celebration. This is the logic of many, and it kills any desire to chop salads.
There's no energy. It's a pity to have money for pathos either. The maximum is pizza with a few trusted friends who won't ask when you're getting married.
Zoomers: the stress of the perfect picture
The younger ones are not thrilled either. For the buzzers, a holiday is a job for content. If a party doesn't look aesthetically pleasing in the stories, it didn't exist. Organizing the “perfect shot” sucks all the juice out of it. That's why they are increasingly leaving this circus. Why bother if the meaning of the holiday has been blurred?
What to do about this?
The original article would have advised you to “get over yourself” and celebrate for your mental health. I'll say it another way: relax.
Don't want to see a crowd? Don't pick up. Are calls annoying? Put on answering machine or turn off your phone. You have the right to do so.
But ignoring the date altogether is also a strategy. It's a path to isolation. Find a compromise. Don't throw a party for your great-aunts. Just grab a friend you're comfortable talking to, order a decent meal, and toast to the fact that you're still holding on.
Your day is your rules. Not the rules of your relatives or your Instagram feed.
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