The habit of reading mom forums doesn't leave me. The plot I came across this morning began as a classic drama about violated boundaries, informs Ukr.Media.
The mother of an 11-year-old boy, through long negotiations and manipulations, has taught her son to do all his homework on Friday. Everyone is happy, two days of legal silence lie ahead.
On Thursday, the teacher announces an important test. She says she'll postpone it for the evening so there's time until Monday. But Thursday passes. Friday too. Saturday is quiet. On Sunday, the little one, with a clear conscience, goes to a friend's house for the night — without a tablet and passwords to school accounts.
And then, at half past two on a Sunday afternoon, the test arrives in the classroom. The deadline is today at 9:00 PM.
The mother, of course, is as angry as a dog. She can be understood. Any person whose Sunday evening plans are suddenly ruined by someone else's disorganization has the right to be furious.
It's called bossing – when someone higher up in the hierarchy thinks your personal time belongs to them. This is just in case.
But the most interesting thing is not the teacher (well, the person forgot, it happens). The most interesting thing is the reaction of the commentators.
Instead of admitting the obvious—work assignments don't come on Sunday afternoons—the women pounced on the author with the grace of a medieval inquisition.
A faction of witnesses of “independence” immediately appeared.
It turns out that an eleven-year-old boy should have written to his teacher on Friday and politely asked: “Where is my test, dear?”
That is, a child in sixth grade must not only study, but also work as a crisis manager for an adult woman, reminding her of her own responsibilities.
If he doesn't do this, that's it, the diagnosis is made. He'll grow up to be lazy, become a janitor, and won't be able to buy his mother bread on his pension.
The logical chain from the undone test to the social bottom was built in three comments.
Next came the heavy artillery — those who pride themselves on their professional burnout.
“What's so special about this?” they were genuinely surprised. “My boss can also give me a report on Sunday, and I do it. I have an irregular day.”
And in this reading between the lines there is so much melancholy. Women voluntarily give up the right to rest and aggressively defend this norm. Because if you admit that a teacher has no right to demand that you take a test on Sunday, then you will have to admit that your boss has no right to pull you on the weekend. And that already hurts. It means that you have been suffering disrespect for yourself for years for nothing.
Of course, someone suggested that the teacher had an emergency. Mom got sick, the dog died, the power went out. Absolutely real scenarios. But in the normal world of adults, if you break the deadline due to force majeure, you move the deadline forward. Or explain the situation. Instead of throwing the test online with the note “hand it in by nine in the evening,” as if it's not your mistake, but their sacred duty to sit and wait.
The author eventually wrote a collective complaint to the head teacher, enlisting the support of other parents. And this is probably the healthiest ending that could have been. Because respect for other people's time does not appear out of thin air, it has to be gnawed away, sometimes through conflicts in school chats. And the boy, I hope, calmly finished playing his game on the tablet with his friend.
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