I'm browsing the latest British press and come across a column by a certain Claire Voges. The woman very aptly laid out this endless social shaming of thirty-year-old women without children, Ukr.Media reports.
Claire remembers sitting on the couch at 33 and opening the envelope from the clinic. And there was the verdict: hormone levels were at rock bottom, eggs were left in one and a half ovaries, if you wanted children – you should have had them yesterday. She writes how she sobbed over that piece of paper then, because she was completely alone.
And you know what's the ugliest thing about this situation? It's not the physiology. It's the fact that society instantly finds the culprit.
If you're over thirty and without a wheelchair, everyone around you is sure that you're a cynical careerist with an icy heart. You supposedly deliberately traded motherhood for a management position, designer bags, and vacations somewhere in the Maldives.
Claire once worked as a speechwriter for the British Prime Minister, and every second drunk colleague at the corporate party considered it their sacred duty to lecture her. One even quoted Marilyn Monroe – they say, a career doesn't warm up overnight. If I were her, I would have poured a glass over his head, but she endured it.
And then you read a new report from some think tank called Baby Bust. It says it in black and white: about 600,000 women may never become mothers at all. And the reason is not that they dream of a career. The reason is that men are simply postponing growing up.
This is classic George Clooney syndrome. Dudes believe they can hang out until their temples are gray, swipe girls on apps (because the illusion of endless choice is more intoxicating than gin), and then, somewhere around fifty, just poke a pretty younger woman and have a baby with her.
Their biological clock isn't ticking, it's in a pawn shop somewhere. Meanwhile, women are forced to sign up for fencing or some weird dance, just to increase their chances of meeting at least one sane person who won't melt into thin air at the word “commitment.”
Claire was lucky in the end – at 35 she got back together with her longtime boyfriend, they didn't last long and now have four children, despite all those medical scares. But her plea to stop painting single women as career-obsessed egotists is base. They are not cold, they are hostages to a situation where their partners have not yet played around.
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