A woman who tries to provide for herself completely for a “living partner” makes a big mistake in a relationship. On the one hand, she loses her femininity and does not give her man the opportunity to take care of her. On the other hand, the chosen one gets used to the fact that his lady is self-sufficient and, if over time she suddenly asks for money, he will perceive it as if someone had reached into his pocket, informs Ukr.Media.
Difficulties associated with asking a man for money most often arise due to appropriate upbringing – a feminine line of behavior that a girl adopted from her mother or grandmother. For example, a mother who raised her daughter alone did not skimp on “compliments” addressed to the opposite sex, and the main truth that she was able to convey to the child was that “all men are goats” and “you can't ask them for snow in winter.” Another typical situation when girls are taught that they should be modest and never ask for anything. Especially from men. This is not decent.
The more you invest, the more it appreciates.
Regardless of what kind of man a woman is dating—single, married, someone who treats her like a queen, or someone who drops by for a couple of hours once every two weeks—if there is intimacy, it gives the woman the right to ask the man for money.
This right must be exercised, because men have this trait: the more they invest in their women, the more they value them.
A man is inherently a creator. When he has a woman he likes in front of him, it is a kind of project for him. The more a man “gets involved” in this project, the more valuable it becomes. And if the “project” does not ask for anything, the man becomes very accustomed to its self-sufficiency, and then there is atrophy of such masculine qualities as the seeker, the protector, the master.
People love and appreciate only what they have earned dearly. And the money a man spends on a woman is his labor, his time, his refusal of rest and pleasures.
Combat reconnaissance
There are men with whom relationships are simple and joyful. It is easy to ask such partners for help, because there is confidence that there will be no refusal. And there are men with whom everything is complicated and incomprehensible. Suspecting that she is in front of a type who does not plan to “develop the project” through investments, a woman often does not dare to ask her partner for money.
This behavior of a woman is not entirely correct. She can think anything about herself and her partner, but she will never know how true her guesses are until she starts a conversation about money. If a man really values a woman, he will go to meet her. And then it will be clear that their relationship is not just about intimacy. But if the gentleman says something like: “Don’t you want a lot, honey?”, we can state that the man is not very interested in the woman.
Asking for money is a litmus test of a man's attitude towards a woman. Many men, when asked whether they are willing to support their partner, always answer the same thing: “I am willing to invest in a woman if she is worthy of it.” In this case, the man himself determines whether the young lady is worthy of subsidies or not.
How to ask for money correctly
Unfortunately, there is no universal advice – it all depends on what psychotype your husband belongs to. For example, if he is stingy, then there is hardly any way to make him give generously. Well, or you will have to humiliate yourself a lot, so it is better not to get involved with the guys in principle.
A normal man likes to give money to his woman. Moreover, he is flattered when a woman asks him for money, because in this way she shows her dependence on her chosen one. And this automatically says that the woman recognizes the power and importance of the man.
It's only important to ask not “brazenly”, but with tenderness, showing your secondary status. Something like this: “Will you buy me a fur coat? Then you will have the most beautiful girl.”
When asking for money, consider the man's psychotype. If he likes the girly type of woman, then “turn on” the child. If the partner prefers the image of a femme fatale, “drown” him in intimacy.
Another tip. You shouldn't just ask for money, it's important to ask for something. For example, for boots. If your husband is not stingy, but frugal, be prepared for the question: “Why? You already have five pairs. You can honestly admit: I really want them. I haven't had any yet.”
Ask politely, correctly, without being condescending. Pretend to be such a girly girl. It is quite possible that a man, if he has money, will buy you the same boots.
If a man refuses your request and doesn't even explain the reason for his refusal, then most likely you are unlikely to expect anything from him in the future either. If he says: “I can't do it now, because…” – all is not lost. You can repeat the request after some time.
Never ask your husband for money when he is in a bad mood, or hungry, or when he has problems at work.
Growth stimulant
It's funny, but it is precisely with her requests to “help financially” that a woman stimulates her partner's desire to work and earn money. The explanation is simple. If a woman is loved, and if a man likes to pamper her, this automatically serves as an incentive for him to make everything better for his wife. So if you asked for lipstick today, and tights tomorrow, only a stingy person can reproach you for this. A normal man who likes to invest money in a woman will say: “Listen, the last bag of money is left, wait. Come on in two weeks.”
Don't skimp on gratitude.
You need to be sincere in your gratitude for the investment you have made. It doesn't matter what you do – jump to the ceiling, kiss your husband, or compliment him. The main thing is that the joy is genuine. Gratitude can be “prolonged.” For example, when you put on a fur coat bought by your husband, you need to brag about it to everyone who sees you wearing it. And be sure to say that my beloved bought it for me.
A woman who does this makes her man look cool, both in the eyes of the weaker and stronger sex. She automatically puts her partner on a pedestal.
Wanting to stay on this pedestal for as long as possible, a man will invest money in his woman again and again.
