Did you think the scariest thing for a mother was when her son got involved with some shady guys from the neighborhood who shell seeds? No. The scariest thing was when he married a girl who, at 22, doesn't know the difference between a colander and a frying pan, and whose specialty is ordering Glovo delivery to go with a TV series.
Recently, a real holivar broke out. The trigger was a simple question: “Is it normal for a 22-year-old girl not to cook anything at all? Not even sandwiches. The refrigerator at home is empty, they eat in establishments.”
“Teach your daughters to cook” vs “Teach your sons to earn”
The comments were divided into two irreconcilable camps.
The older generation (and those who are mentally with them) grab their hearts and a bottle of Corvalol. For them, a girl's lack of cooking skills is almost a diagnosis. One woman wrote indignantly: “I wouldn't want such “happiness” for my sons. While they're still young, it doesn't matter. But then… how can I stand it? Moms, teach your daughters to cook, please!”
The logic here is ironclad: love = care, and care = food. If you're not standing by the stove, you're an inferior partner.
“This is not service, but care. And then why do you need such a wife? For beauty? No one says you can bake cakes, but you should be able to cook the simplest food for the family,” say the guardians of the home. For them, a man who eats in a cafe is a stooped, pale martyr with sad eyes, who will have a stomach ulcer tomorrow.
But there is a younger generation and mothers of girls who are not going to raise cooks. Their response is lightning fast: “Teach your sons to earn money, please! For delivery, cooking, housekeeper! Our daughters are not servants.”
Sudochok as a symbol of power
Why are mothers of sons so triggered by an empty refrigerator in a young family? It's pure panic, bordering on hysteria: “They'll use him! He's choking on sandwiches in there! She just wants his money!”
The boy's mother often sees the world through her child's stomach. It seems to her that if her daughter-in-law doesn't know how to cook borscht, the family will fall apart. “They need to grow up to be millionaires so they can order delivery 3 times a day. Me too, princesses,” the comments ironically say.
Will a man really die without his wife-cook?
— “My eldest, now 17 years old, lives alone and cooks absolutely everything for himself, from soups to cutlets,” shares one wise mother’s experience.
— “If a boy needs food, let him cook it himself. Or his mother will deliver it in buckets,” others counter.
Where did the myth of men's domestic helplessness come from? Why does a grown man who can fix a car engine or write code for a complex program turn into an armless toddler in his own mother's eyes who will die of exhaustion in front of a full refrigerator if he doesn't warm it up and put it in his mouth?
“He also has two hands, like the girl. No one is obliged to serve your household disabled people,” the women harshly but fairly remark.
22 years old: Time for TikTok or cutlets?
Someone at this age already had two children and canned tomatoes, and someone… “It's normal. I didn't cook at the time when I was 22, but I played Tetris and read books. Now I'm 45, I don't cook, but I sit on the Internet,” one of the women admits.
The current rhythm is too frantic to kill evenings by the stove if it doesn't bring pleasure. For many young couples, time spent together at the cinema, on a walk, or even just on TikTok is more valuable than the perfect dinner.
“Life is too short to cook and wash dishes. If you have the money, let them order,” writes the 26-year-old girl.
How not to climb into someone else's refrigerator
The hardest thing for a mother is to admit that her son has grown up and is happy with this lifestyle. That it's okay for him to eat yesterday's cold pizza straight from the box. That he can throw that unfortunate scrambled eggs into the pan himself if his wife is busy or simply doesn't want to.
When the mother-in-law starts to lament: “What's she for him? Only money and… ahem, love?”, she devalues her son's choice. Maybe she's great in bed? Maybe she's interesting to talk to? Maybe she earns more than him?
One woman noted: “It's their business. If they want to eat, they'll learn. You don't have to fit everyone into your framework.”
And another added: “Get rid of the children. Leave the daughter-in-law's parents and the daughter-in-law herself alone. They are adults. Hunger is not a problem, if it gets too hot, they will fry eggs and put sausage on bread.”
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Rainbow Cat 🤔 It's their business 02/13/2026 08:44 I got married at 22, learned to cook from a cookbook. My mother-in-law wasn't around, so everything was calm. I learned. ❤️ 1 + Reply Bulky Killer Whale 🍳 I'm going to be a housewife 02/13/2026 08:17 Maybe I'll say something prosaic now, but yes, most modern trends are business … someone's business. Convincing anyone that “a woman must be a woman”, “a woman is not a cook” or “a woman is not a dishwasher” is like a fool's guess. But the fact remains: ready-made food (and even with delivery) is a product with almost the highest added value. In addition, potential buyers need it every day and at least three times a day … and also customers of ready-made meals, more often women than men, who are more inclined than men to order expensive dishes. If we take for comparison two families with approximately the same income level, one of which cooks for itself, and the other eats ready-made food, then the difference in costs, mathematically, will prove this thesis to anyone who wants. By the way, this is far from a modern invention – in excavated ancient Roman cities there are entire quarters of settlements without baths and … kitchens. Free but poor citizens of Rome lived in these quarters. While food was prepared for slaves in their kitchens… 💯 1 + Reply