I'll give my ex into good hands. How the Chinese turned dating into a market for used gentlemen

I'll give my ex into good hands. How the Chinese turned dating into a market for used gentlemen 2

While you and I are swiping left and right, trying to catch at least someone adequate, Chinese youth have broken the system. Why play the lottery with new people when you can use proven “second-hand”, informs Ukr.Media.

It seems that trust in Tinder has fallen below the plinth not only in our country. Young Chinese are so tired of “pigs in a poke”, scammers and Photoshop masters that they have begun to treat finding a partner as if it were hiring an employee. The mechanics are simple: you write a “letter of recommendation” for your ex and hand it over to reliable hands.

Girls, give this guy a recommendation!

It all started with a viral post on social media, where one girl, driven to despair by modern dating, wrote:

“Sisters, can anyone recommend an ex? I really don't understand why it's so hard to find a boyfriend. If I don't find a decent guy, I'll have to drink herbal tinctures to restore my mental balance.”

And then it took off. The comments turned into a real job fair. People started pitching their exes like experienced HHs.

“What about my current one? If we break up, I'll be a beacon. He's actually pretty generous,” one girl wrote, apparently already preparing her escape routes.

Condition – got in and drove off, but there are nuances

The most interesting thing here is the format. It's not just “it's cool, take it.” These are full-fledged technical passports and operating manuals.

Here is a real example of such a “resume” that is circulating the Internet:

  • Year of release: 1995.
  • Dimensions: 183 cm.
  • Career: Works in a government agency (stability!).
  • Functional: Emotionally stable, knows how to cook.
  • Bugs: A bit of a sissy.
  • Verdict: Worthy of attention.

For greater persuasiveness, some even add a reference to “operational experience”: “Based on three years of personal testing.”

And here's another lot from Shanghai, clearly labeled on the shelves:

  • TTX: 28 years old, 185 cm, fair skin, works in the public sector.
  • Pros: Emotionally stable as a rock.
  • Cons: Kisses so-so, swears when playing video games.
  • Condition: 90% new (no domestic violence, no cheating, reason for selling – long-distance relationship not working out).

Commentators even create instructions for future owners: “He likes soy milk in the morning, grinds his teeth at night. If he's offended, he needs half an hour of dancing with a tambourine. He likes intimacy without the light.”

I will give my husband away for free.

But the real surrealism begins where women try to “fix” their legal husbands.

One woman wrote: “I'll leave a recommendation for my husband. The child is already grown, I don't need him anymore. The ideal option for those who want children, but don't have time to raise them. Apartment in Beijing, 120 square meters, works from home, washes dishes. My in-laws are old, they don't have long left. If it suits me, I'll divorce them tomorrow.”

It sounds like a script for a black comedy, but it's reality.

And people really find a partner like that

There was a story when a girl “handed over” her boyfriend to another girl before moving abroad, and the two got along perfectly.

It's all because of a total distrust of the “market.” Young people are afraid of pickpockets, abusers, and liars. And here you get a used product, but with a transparent service history.

“It's better than pointing a finger at the sky. If someone has already met him and gives a recommendation, it's a sign of quality. It's better that way than running into a scammer,” the girls write.

Are we at the market?

Not everyone likes the idea of people being turned into commodities. “It's no different than choosing vegetables in a supermarket,” critics complain.

What about double standards? One commenter aptly noted: “I have a little question: if guys started passing off ex-girlfriends to each other like that, wouldn't it look like complete cringey?”

It would seem so. But while dating app algorithms are offering us the “wrong ones,” the idea of getting an ex with a letter of recommendation and a list of bugs doesn't seem so crazy anymore.

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