The plot is painfully banal. Friday, a 14-year-old daughter is going to a friend's house for a sleepover. The mother suspects that there will be alcohol there and says a categorical “no”. The teenager ignores. She calmly puts on makeup, gathers her things. The mother decides to play guard and stands in the doorway. Word for word, screaming, swearing, hysterics from both of them. The daughter attacks, punches her mother in the face, and falls. The little one simply steps over her and leaves.
A month later — a game of silence, attempts at weak apologies, and the mother's question: “What should I do?”
It sounds like savagery. But children don't start beating their parents out of the blue. The basic taboo on physical aggression towards an adult still needs to be broken. And this mother succeeded.
Let's look at the background. The husband left when the little one was a year old. For 14 years they were in this cauldron together. How were conflicts resolved before? The mother honestly admits: when her daughter “behaved badly,” she beat her. Quarrels in the house – consistently once a week over unwashed dishes or homework. No compromises.
What was sown, that came up. A hysterical girl raised a hysterical girl.
A 14-year-old child was clearly demonstrated three rules of life. First: any problem can be shouted over. Second: whoever is stronger, beats. Third: the conflict is resolved by “torture of silence” until the culprit crawls to his knees.
The mother wants a magic pill. To be given instructions on how to make her daughter obey, or to be told a few magic words to turn her into a nice girl.
But the truth is that the mother doesn't need peace. She needs these scandals. The daughter in this apartment has long played the role of the absent husband: you can quarrel with her, make up with her violently, get emotional swings. You can blame her for your own unrest.
The woman says bluntly, “Because of her tantrums, I was never able to find her a normal father.” Convenient.
They were offered therapy together. They went exactly once. After that, the mother said that she “understood everything” and would cope on her own. The daughter swore not to fight anymore, and they reconciled.
Brilliant. Simply brilliant.
But nothing is over. They will continue to chew on this cactus. For years. Until their daughter finally grows up and carries this broken pattern with screams and fists into her own relationships.
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Who is the real executioner in this story: the mother who taught the child violence, or the daughter who raised her hand against the adult?
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🪞 Mother's guilty upbringing 🚫 Daughter crossed the line 🤔 I have my own opinion
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🪞 Mother's upbringing is 100% to blame 🚫 Daughter crossed the line 0% 🤔 I have my own opinion 0% 💡
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