I used to look at single men over 40 and didn't understand what was wrong with them? They have money, they've managed to acquire property, they look normal, and they seem like a good person. For a woman, they're an ideal candidate, but for some reason they're lonely. Why?
Now I know, at least I've solved one mysterious bachelor.
I happened to cross paths with such a friend, and he almost immediately told me that he was looking for a wife, that he wanted a family so badly. He said that the time had come, and in general I was monogamous, I was tired of all these romances, I wanted a home, a family, children, and all that was left was to find a wife.
“Great,” I thought, listening to him. “A little old, but maybe he's a good man and has serious intentions. I'll give him a chance.”
After announcing his intentions, he immediately moved on to talking about his ex, who turned out to be a terrible person. She allegedly cheated him out of money in a completely insidious way! And he really doesn't like selfish women. As a result, it turned out that she made him pay for her during a trip abroad, where he invited her. That is, he invited the girl he was sleeping with on a trip. He bought her a ticket and paid for her expenses for two whole weeks. And at the end of the vacation, he issued an invoice – they said, here's your half. The girl was surprised, to put it mildly. She refused to pay for herself.
This is a man who has his own chic designer apartment in the city center and a fleet of cars — he first invited me himself, and then asked me to reimburse the expenses. Is that normal? Is it worth mentioning that in the end, not only did he not pay for my dinner (to which he invited me), but he also meticulously counted his share, down to the penny!
But that's not all.
Greed was not his only flaw. He was terribly boring throughout the dinner. At each of the two alcoholic drinks I ordered, he raised an eyebrow and stared at me for a long time with a bored look. “Aren’t you drinking too much?” he asked when they brought me a second glass of wine at the fourth hour of the party. At the same time, he calmly sipped whiskey. I didn’t even mention that I smoked. In addition to his dissatisfaction with my “alcoholism,” he expressed his dissatisfaction with every aspect of my life in turn — what terrible expenses!
And if at the beginning of the evening he seemed interesting and likable to me, then at the end I barely restrained myself from hitting him on the head with a chair and running away, so that he would pay for this dinner himself, and finally I was convinced that all women are mercantile creatures, and went to the monastery.
There are two most repulsive male traits for me: greed and boredom. He perfectly combined both.
And on the way home, I had no more doubts about why he wasn't married.
Everyone loves to stigmatize single women over 30: “If she's not married yet, there's something wrong with her!” And it doesn't seem to apply to men. I have bad news for you: it does apply to you. When you have a seemingly perfect candidate in front of you, but he doesn't have a “divorce” in his past, no “we lived together for 7 years” – that's it. Just run.
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Chunky Killer Whale 🚩 He's hopeless! 10.02.2026 06:21 I also have a childhood friend who is “smart, has money, and has already acquired serious property, and is not a bad person”. I don't know if he's stingy, because there was no reason to check, but I don't rule it out. Is he boring? – for some reason it seems to me that women really have nothing to talk about with him. And yes, – he's already 47 👍 1 💯 1 + Reply